Relationships can create much stress in our lives. Who would know better than us? We as adults are made to go through so many ups and downs in relationships with family, extended family, and friends or colleagues.
Strained relationships not just affect us but also affect young kids equally. Research has shown that kids, who are surrounded by caring relationships in childhood, end up building higher self-esteem as adults. Such kids also end up having a healthy bent of mind which ensures better achievements in all spheres of life.
Looking at the kids around these days, even small kids are seen to be picky and judgmental about each other. They tend to corner a friend when he or she doesn’t fit into their likings or preferences. Sometimes a small dispute also ends-up creating disliking for each other.
So, it is essential to help kids nurture their relationships in the right manner right from the beginning.
Here are 3 quick tips that will be very helpful:
- Encourage kids to avoid the use of harsh words during a fight: Often, during an argument, the kids tend to get too aggressive. Our little wonders try to push their point of view in trying toprove themselves right. It is okay to feel bad and upset during a fight.
But, it is extremely important to teach kids to make use of empathetic and kind language to resolve the fight. Name picking and blaming are two common things that happen in small kids. Such a wrong language can end up worsening the situation further. In middle school and high school kids, the use of the wrong language can harm the relationship for a long duration of time.
Hence, it is extremely important for kids to resolve conflicts using the right language. You must get kids into the practice of counting till 10 before saying any unkind word during a fight. And, once they are aware in 10 seconds time that the word they are about to say is improper, then the next task is to replace it with a proper kind word.
This small practice goes a long way in ensuring kids build up positive relationships with their peers.
- Set an example of the right way to fight: It is okay to expose kids to some of their parents’ fights provided the fights or arguments are rooted in a respectful manner. This enables kids to understand that having different views is natural but what is more important is to learn to deal with differences positively.
If by any chance, you and your spouse end up having a bitter argument displaying the whole gamut of emotions, then it would be a lot better to fight in your kid’s absence.
Role plays, moral stories, and lessons can be of big help in helping kids how to deal with fights respectfully.
- Teach cultural diversity to kids: Many of our actions are guided by our beliefs, culture or practices that are seen and learnt at home. The same holds true for little kids. As parents, we must put serious effort in exposing kids to different cultures.
Showing them movies for kids, taking them to cultural fests, and reading to them about differences in customs, cultures, and beliefs in different parts of the world can be very helpful.
Taking kids to social gatherings and encouraging them to interact with other kids will help them learn and respect others.
These small small things go a long way in chiseling your child’s personality to grow up to an empathetic sober individual. These learnings will stay with kids forever and will help them to grow up to become much more adjustable and empathetic individuals who can handle their lives and relationships a lot better.