Self-esteem is the way each one of us values ourselves. Self-esteem shapes the way we look at ourselves and it defines how worthy we think we are. Our beliefs, such as confidence, pride, shame, guilt, etc. sum up to define our self-esteem.
As adults, we grow up to learn a lot of negative beliefs about ourselves which makes our self-esteem low. Do you know that low self-esteem comes as a challenge in building healthy relationships, succeeding in careers and socializing, or trying new tasks?
Low self-esteem is really dangerous for one and all. It holds you back in expressing yourself to the fullest and hides you in a shell of fear and negativity. Imagine how dangerous it would be for kids who develop low self-esteem unknowingly.
When kids develop low self-esteem, they create multiple barriers around themselves which stop their growth and development. It is extremely important to raise happy and confident kids who have high self-esteem so that the kids can reach their fullest potential as adults.
Here, are the 5 tips to identify low self-esteem in kids
- The kid is self-critical: You may see that your kid is way too harsh on himself. He gets upset and angry the moment he doesn’t do a thing right. He screams or cries badly for not getting small things in place. This kind of behavior is an indicator of self-criticism.
- Doubt their capabilities: If the kid asks you, Mamma what if I fail in my elocution? Or What if I fail in the race? These questions indicate doubt in one’s capabilities, which is not a healthy sign. You need to look for these indicators in your child.
- Lack of confidence: If your child lacks the confidence of trying new tasks, then it is a sign to watch. Kids learn by making mistakes but that doesn’t stop them from learning and participating in new jobs. But, if your child needs a lot of push to participate in new activities and lacks the confidence to be able to carry out the tasks successfully then it is something that needs to be worked upon.
- Finds hard to accept praises and criticism: If your child cannot handle criticism or appreciation well, then it is something to be looked into. Low self-esteem lowers the worth of the child in his or her own eyes. The child may find it difficult to accept any positive or negative comment and may tend to overthink about it.
- Mood swings: If your child has mood swings while playing with friends or is reluctant to make eye contact, then it may be an indicator of low self-esteem.
Though low self-esteem may come with failures, rejections or betrayals, if it persists for too long, it becomes a serious problem. Thus, it is essential to help your child become a happy and confident adult who takes life with a pinch of salt. And, most importantly, it is about raising a child who stays in a positive bent of mind now and forever.